The new year always bring about the possibility of change. Many people take on the changing of the calendar as a change of who they are. They may have a spark of interest in new things. They may realize something isn’t working for them. Heck, they may even notice that they need to kill all of the negativity that is surrounding them. For many, a new year brings a new hope.
The only problem is that most people aren’t going to change much.
A new year, a new you? Not entirely.
Chocolate covered lie? New Year’s resolutions are great ideas and goals that many of us should work to attain.
New Year’s Waste
For many of us, a new year’s resolution is a complete waste of energy. Many of the issues we have are not determined by the entrance of January. Another issue is that the goals tend to be way too lofty anyway. For example, planning to lose 100 pounds in a year is nice; however you actually making that happen takes a lot of work. Plus, who is to say that the goal is even worth achieving OR is meant to be achieved? For this much, we tend to have resolutions so we can resolve the fact that we won’t resolve anything.
And then there are bigger issues that we may not be aware of.
One of the bigger issues is the determination that takes to get to those goals. New Year’s resolutions take a lot of “self-regulation”, which is the set of motivational and cognitive skills that allow us to act in the service of long-term goals . Many haven’t realized that our sense of self-regulation is authoritative but fatigues hastily at time and effort goes on. Plus, there isn’t a true understanding of how self-regulation works in accordance to the body and mind . Thus, we have to understand how to keep our own selves going in order to make things happen.
An even bigger trip up for our ability to self-regulate is our “inner selves”. Ask Michael Bader, D.M.H and he would say that we have “…unconscious resolutions not to change. For every conscious resolution to lose weight, stop drinking, save money, call your Mom more often, control your temper, or finish that project, there are unconscious commitments to keep things exactly the way they are” . Many of us have deeper seated issues that cause our behaviors. He even notes that “and, yet, most of us can’t accept that we even have an unconscious mind, much less that it plays such a profound role in thwarting our highest aims” . So, how can we even win when we don’t understand, or believe, that we have deeper issues to resolve within ourselves?
Then again, most of today’s problems tend to be solved through meditation or medication. Go figure.
New Year’s resolutions are fun to make, but they take a lot of work. However, if you want to obtain new goals, you need to understand your bigger issues. If you don’t have any deep seated problems that need resolution, you need to find some shorter goals to reach your bigger one. New Year’s resolutions sound great on paper or on your latest Facebook status. However, one should figure out how to make their goals become more than a statement put up on social media for entertainment’s sake.
‘Nuff said and ‘Nuff respect!!!