I’m going to be honest here: I have actually perpetuated some of the stereotypes about African Americans. To me, it was always hilarious. I would enjoy my grape soda and fried chicken (Popeyes preferably). Also, I would entice myself with a nice piece of watermelon every now and then. For the sake of comedy, I would exhibit these stereotypes to make people laugh or feel uncomfortable.

I know, I know: I was being an ass. Sue me.

However, there are some stereotypes that cannot be ignored. Many times, we are disappointed or ostracized because our beliefs don’t match up with reality. We look at one simple aspect and draw a conclusion. Even more harmful, we try to classify a race or gender off of these off-beat beliefs. By limiting others, we eventually limit ourselves.

Yet, many of us don’t even understand this. So, I must take the time to break all of this down.

The chocolate covered lie: we should hold onto our gender stereotypes.

With All Due Hilariousness

To put things lightly, everyone is guilty of the gender stereotype. Plenty have felt that the “catholic school/private school girl” will be your biggest freak. Many have tried to say that overweight women are the bigger sexual deviants. Even further, I have had many of my male compatriots think that strippers and librarians can be the biggest sexual expressions out there. To put it bluntly, men sure do believe a lot of foolishness.

Yet, many stereotypes don’t take one thing in consideration: their lack of relevance. Going to catholic/private school has to do with education, not sexual aptitude [1]. Regardless, I bet many men enjoy seeing the “naughty female” in the school girl’s uniform. Even further, many strippers work the pole to pay their bills; the same can be said for librarians shelving books [2]. Realistically, we play into stereotypes because they sound good.

With All Due Seriousness

One of the main issues is that having sexual stereotypes pit men and women against each other. Society fulfills these stagnant categories for us to live by and fit within [3]. What happens is this: we (men and women alike) work to fit in. The problems ensue when we work the illusion until the illusion crumbles [4]. In the end, illusionary living leads to illustrious and ill-tempered relations.

Wait….what just happened???

Much of the blame starts with us, however. The clinical psychologist Lisa Firestone noted something that needs to be understood:

Many of us learn prejudicial attitudes at an early age from observing the stereotypical roles that people in our families assume. As we progress through school, these attitudes are reinforced by our classmates and peers. They are also supported by the unspoken biases of our teachers and by the arrangement of educational programs. Sadly, many men and women buy into the stereotypic views of themselves. As a result they are not only the victims of these prejudices but they are co-conspirators in perpetuating the very attitudes that are destructive to them and limit them in their
lives and their relationships. [5]

Once we see how life is “supposed to be”, we promote how life is “supposed to be”. From there, Men develop vanity to maintain their superiority. While women develop a victimized approach to life in order to maintain their powerlessness [6]. From that point, the sad cycle continues.

The Skinny

Sexual stereotypes are nothing but the hindrance of life. Professed popularity of these stereotypes has been entertaining. Yet, they have been foolishly false. Even more serious situations have been exacerbated due to beliefs that are like a colander: they should not hold water. Once we realize that our beliefs are stereotypes, than the only stereotypes we should worry about is picking between Sony or Bose.

I bet y’all just missed that slick talk, huh?

‘Nuff said and ‘Nuff respect!!!

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