Now this is a late 80’s oldie but goodie. Chuckii Booker (with two i’s) made himself a respectable classic with this jam. Now that it is one of the dusties, I truly understand what my young mind wasn’t grasping at a young age. Chuckii was pretty dedicated while his woman played with his emotions. With that said, this song remains its relevancy due to the dynamics of one being unappreciative of the other.

Then again, there are those that are intentionally unappreciative. Yet, they expect you to still fulfill their needs. How should you deal with them? Let us find out.
Question:

My girlfriend and I split up. After 7 years of being together, I went away for a few months when she wanted a separation. During that time, I went back to my parents. Anyway, I really felt we were done. We never even talked until I was ready to drive back home and divide our stuff and split everything. On the way back, all I could think about was fixing it and getting back together.

Yet, things didn’t go as planned.  My heart was busted badly because she noted that she didn’t want to get back with me. It was her idea to break up because I wasn’t giving her what she needed. So when I left for the 2 months, I let her go.

I don’t know what changed in me. I have been here (the old house) for a month. We still live in the same house so it is hard. She says she has no feelings for me but we are now having sex. And I’m not talking any regular sex. I am talking wild sex.

Yet, she still has a cold side that is confusing me. I love her very much and I don’t want it to end. We are doing special things, too.

I just don’t know what to do.

Answer:

Before you think of doing anything, I have a few steps to get you prepared for making it out of this situation. Here goes:

1.)    Unzip your pants.

2.)    Pull them down.

3.)    Remove the joystick cord from your ass.

4.)    Hit yourself upside the head with it for taking her foolishness.

5.)    Toss said joystick upside your ex’s head for even trying to play you in such a manner.

6.)    Untuck your loins and pull your pants up.

7.)    Act like you have a pair of nuts and be a man.

I mean, what more should I tell you about this situation? She is making the most of this mess you allowed to occur.

Then it hit me: you both are exes that still live together. Being recent exes, and still living together, does not work unless you both are either GREAT friends or you both don’t see each other enough for it to matter. Otherwise, it is a conflict of interest. Why would you even want to consider being around someone you just broke up with? How can you “break up” and continue the “charade of being together”?

Dammit, man!!!

Dammit, man!!!

Here is your problem right off the bat: you are thinking that playing her game is going to get you back in her good graces. You are hoping that, one day, she will eventually take you back. And she MAY get back with you (I don’t know for sure). However, you aren’t doing her any favors by allowing this situation to continue. At the end of the day, you have to be a man about it and walk away.

What is even more impressive is the fact that she is determining how the situation plays out. Due to your feelings of guilt, you have figuratively tucked your penis and scrotum between your legs like Buffalo Bill. She doesn’t even have to actually get back with you: you are still going to act like she is your woman. Regardless of the great sex and special moments, she is sending mix signals because it seems to be a language you are fine with adlibbing and acting like you comprehend. Summing it up, cows won’t get bought if the milk is free.

Hey, the truth is the truth....

Hey, the truth is the truth….

I hope you understand that analogy because I am not explaining it.

Even in a recession, people will play games with your heart.

Even in a recession, people will play games with your heart.

I hope you are done with her shaking the dice on your feelings for her. You have to admit that she is taking all the spaces on the game board. Meanwhile, you can’t pass go or collect 200 dollars. Then again, it makes no sense to play a game that has the clear odds of you losing. In short, kick the game board over, separate your emotions from your feelings of carnal pleasure, and stop trying to win at the game of love by playing yourself.

‘Nuff said and ‘Nuff respect!!!

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