Now I know some of you remember this Silk song. This was that jam for that after-hours love. Once you heard it, you knew what time it was. There was no overly explicit language. However, everything about this song was suggestively sexual.

Still, people may freeze up when that moment comes. And it is no laughing matter.

Question:

I have this guy friend that I like a lot. We have even talked about being sexual. Yet, when it is time to have sex, it never happens. A lot of it has to do with me, though. My previous time was terrible! Now, I have a fear of even going to the next step due to the possibility of it being bad? What should I do?

Answer:

For some apparent reason, you have having some anxiety about sex. Your biggest fear is being disappointed by your partner. However, there is no need to fret. The good news is that you don’t have a true sexual concern within yourself. Thus, the hurdle for you to get over is that much easier.

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Nonetheless, there is still some concern to be had. At some point, you have to stop worrying about what he can, and can’t do. In fact, you just need to make sure that he is disease free, has some sexual experience/know-how, and a sex drive that will keep pace with yours. Add that with a willingness to learn/experiment will only improve situations. Therefore, your first focus should be trying to find out what he can do.

I hope you didn’t pick a lame brain to get into bed with you. That would be saddening to say the least.

You see that man to your left? Lame brain.

You see that man to your left? Lame brain.

I would not try to worry too much about the initial experience. In many cases, there is a chance that it may not be good. He may need to learn you and your body. Hell, you may need to learn his. In turn, sex is just like life: a learning experience.

Be happy like this cat.

Be happy like this cat.

Let loose, learn what he likes, and see if he can give you the bed room rollercoaster ride you been looking for.

‘Nuff said and ‘Nuff respect!!!

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