Wale is such the musical conundrum that it tends to be annoying.
You see, Wale is what you call “potential gone awry”. Yeah, sure: he is selling way more records now that he is with MMG. He formulated the formula to “some” success. However, this has only led to a dichotomy; Wale has found material increases to go along with decline in critical acclaim. To put it short, he is getting money but the music ain’t the same.
Personally, I think he needs to go back to his “Mixtape About Nothing” groove. I heard he is (partially). That only excites me more.
But back to the subject at hand…
Wale recently dropped the free-by-way-of-bandwith Folarin to mixed reviews. Many people liked it. Many people thought it was just “good”. I was more of the latter. Yeah, he had some great production. He even had some dope cuts. However, it seemed to drift around mediocrity and run-of-the-mill compositions after a while. Personally, I felt he could have done better.
Yet, there is always that diamond in the rough. That diamond is the track “Bad”, which features Tiara Thomas. So many women (that I know) clamored to add this to their I-Tunes playlists. I always thought that the song was classic Wale-chick-song: dope soothing rhythms with a flow that only enhances the aura. Thus, I understood the initial attraction to the song.
That is, until I gave the song a THOROUGH listen. This isn’t some “female song”. This is a song about females.
Bigger than anything, it deals with the plight of women in their love/sex lives. With some verified commentary, Tiara Thomas does let us know about the chorus’s first two lines:
When you haven’t found true love or someone who is worth your commitment, it’s hard to say that you’ve made love. Maybe you’ve even felt like you were in love at the time, but after everything is done and over with you start to second guess the feelings you had before. In turn you question whether you’ve ever actually made love to someone or was it just a fuck.
Such explanations only shed more light into the meaning of the song. Then, there is the lines where Wale notes that “…So it seems we fiend what we don’t need/Got a thing for a queen who know when to leave/I’m not bout to judge you, don’t judge me/You ain’t gotta really sing about your rap sheet” . So, there is plenty of issues to be had within the premise of the song.
But why would women have these issues? Well, there are always some answers.
Many of us don’t realize that people come in with their own burdens to bear. Situations from lack of self-esteem to not understanding the dynamics of positive relationships can cause women to think of themselves in a certain light. Also, there are plenty of men that don’t understand their true roles in healthy relationships. There are too many times that men will seek the fundamentally carnal side of relations and then cut the situation short. So, some burdens come with the territory of dating.
We also have to realize that with a lot of relationships come with a lot of baggage. Like Tiana noted, past relationships have plenty of women either questioning their own worth or having trust issues. What happens is this: it becomes a vicious cycle. Men dogging out good women can lead to good women grouping men into the same category. That categorization leads women to treating all men the same. Eventually, those men (if they aren’t able minded enough) may end up scarred relationship wise and start becoming sexual Neanderthals instead of the gentlemen they set out to be.
See there? Vicious cycle. Crazy, ain’t it?
In short, Wale and Tiara Thomas constructed a song that should actually come with dialogue. Just because situations are like this for many women doesn’t mean it has to be. Situations need to change. As a hip hop community, urban community, and even a nation, we should take the time to understand where some of our relationships go wrong. Bad girls want to be good; they just need to realize that there is something worth being good for besides bedroom skills.
Oh, and Wale: don’t mess up on that collaboration with Seinfeld, fam. This can be that magnum opus album.
‘Nuff said and ‘Nuff respect!!!