Well, this is an interesting jam by Z.Z. Hill. It talks about…well..infidelity. He references the woman talking softly on the telephone. He also understands that “playing the cheating game only brings hurt and pain”. She made plans with meeting up with the other guy soon anyway. Thus, it seemed that this situation was at a lost.
But does that mean every other situation is a lost cause? We shall see.

The question:

Should you really forgive a cheating mate?

Short answer: If your mate is “worth it”, then forgiveness is always an option.

Long answer: let’s get to the good part, shall we?

Some cheating occurs due to relationship neglect. Problems like lack of or poor communication, loss of intimacy, hurt feelings, festering resentment, and embitterment frequently lead to acting out in the form of cheating behavior [1]. At that time, both parties (especially the estranged) need to figure out where they both went wrong. Sometimes, addressing the issues after cheating can improve the relationship in the long run [2]. Therefore, neglectful situations have a chance of working and improving.

However, there are those situations in which we all know that things aren’t going to get better.

Be for real: Tiger Woods was doomed from the start. So was Jesse James. Then again, they were put in positions to lose. More on that later.

Be reminded that the chronic cheater will probably not change their behavior. Letting them slide again and again can lead to a kind of co-dependency, unintentionally enabling and perpetuating the problem [3]. You know the old saying “fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me.” It can get even worst when the cheater is a narcissist. The craving for “narcissistic supplies” (excessive admiration, love, sexual variety) keeps the severely narcissistic offender always searching for his or her next “fix” [4]. So, there are situations where the problems just can’t be solved so easily (if at all).

He look as if he is up to no good…already!!!

Then we have the situation with many famous and powerful men: the alpha male situation. Part of the reason why Tiger Woods, Jesse James, and any other powerful man usually fall susceptible to cheating is because of their status and value. Are all the women gold diggers? Not necessarily. But when a man is of that stature, animal kingdom comes into play. These men can be considered “alpha males” in some instances. Is this an excuse for their behavior? No. But we must know what we are dealing with at all times.

In short, it truly depends on the relationship and the cheating party. If your relationship is on the rocks, then it is understood to forgive. If that person is a chronic cheater, then you may need to part ways. All the rich and famous guys that cheat? Many of them are probably going to be at a loss due to their circumstances (no excuses; this is real talk). Conclusively, figure out the foray in which the forgettable and forgivable can be given favor.

‘Nuff Said and ‘Nuff Respect!!!

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